An article by Rafael Richman, Ph.D. details twelve tips on how to tell your children about divorce. Divorce in California can be devastating emotionally, not only for the married couple but also for the family unit that is being forever altered by the decision. The tips listed and detailed in the full article are:

1. Choose an appropriate time and place for your conversation.
2. Expect that when you disclose that you and your spouse plan to separate or to divorce, that it will be difficult for you.
3. It is okay to express and show your feelings.
4. Be brief and sincere.
5. Adjust your words to the age-appropriate level of your children.
6. Allow your children the space, time, and opportunity to absorb what you say and to share their feelings.
7. Remember that each child is unique.
8. Expect that your children may experience strong and intense reactions.
9. Acknowledge and validate what your children are feeling and where they are at.
10. Prepare for lots of questions and concerns from your children.
11. Honor and respect your children’s individual needs.
12. Expect and know that no matter what you say and do, that your child may feel and believe that they are responsible and to blame for your separation and divorce.

The bottom line is that the process of separation and divorce can be very painful for all involved. While it is important to realize that divorce is a choice that many make for themselves, its impact is felt much more widely.

If you are going through a divorce and need representation, contact our family law attorneys for a consultation today.